But did that person listen to the voice of God when they chose their mate? Is the marriage truly ordained by God? Or is it simply a marriage of convenience? What about the husband or wife who admits they never really loved the other? It’s possible failure began before the altar. Those are just a few questions everyone should ask themselves because allowing the mindset of being cheaper to keep her (or him) can cause a tremendous amount of heartache and confusion if the motive is not pure. The question is, are those people at peace with themselves and God? Others may stay in a marriage because they don’t want to look like a failure. Many people (men and women) would much rather stay in an abusive marriage than pay child support, lose their home or give up some of their pension in a divorce. Do you not know that “the love of money”, not money itself, is the root of ALL evil? So why do so many choose to stay in an unhappy, damning marriage because they fear losing material things or social status? Again, I don’t promote divorce but I also have a hard time believing that God requires anyone to stay in a marriage that causes physical harm or prohibits them from following Him. Why, because my health means so much more to me than any amount of money. So, they say it’s cheaper to keep her (or him) but what about a person’s physical, emotional and spiritual health? My husband always tells me that I’m one of the only people he knows who never allows finances to become a hardship or burden. So keep in mind, the following is only my opinion! The bible speaks against divorce (accept in adultery), therefore seeking God, mediation, or some other form of wise counsel is necessary. Not perfect but equally yoked, positively soul-tied marriage. In no way am I promoting divorce nor do I totally disagree with it. Things get so real that they feel it’s cheaper to keep her (or him) and suffer the unhappy marriage. They begin to notice a lower stress level and maybe even spending more time in prayer only to discover that once they add up all their bills and take into consideration that the other person could possibly reap financial gain as a result of a divorce, things get real. They finally make the decision to go forth and they’re feeling at a “happy” place in their lives. Let’s first understand the meaning behind the cliché…Ī lot of people find themselves facing a difficult marriage and begin to contemplate separation or even divorce. It’s a saying that results in making decisions that hurt not only the married couple but others who are a part of their lives as well. In fact, at one point in my marriage, I believe the thought had crossed my own husband’s mind. I’ve heard this cliché uttered many times by several people I’ve crossed paths with.
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